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The first independent visit is an important stage in a child’s socialisation. It is exciting for both the child and the parents. In order for the visit to go smoothly, it is useful to discuss the rules of behaviour and prepare for possible situations in advance.
1. Discuss where and to whom the child will go.
– Tell who will be visiting (children, adults, pets).
– Explain how long the visit will last.
– Make sure the child understands what kind of place it is (friends’ house, relatives’ house, etc.).
2. Say the rules of behaviour
– Politeness: say hello, thank you, say goodbye.
– Hygiene: wash your hands before eating, do not pick your nose.
– Safety: don’t touch other people’s things without asking, don’t open the door to strangers.
– Table etiquette: don’t grab food first, don’t screw up your face if you don’t like the dish.
3. Assemble a ‘guest kit’ First time visiting: how to prepare your child for the visit
The first independent visit to guests is an important stage in the socialisation of the child. It is exciting for both the baby and the parents. To make the visit comfortable, you should discuss the rules of behaviour in advance and prepare for possible situations.
1 Discuss where the child is going and who he/she is visiting
– Tell who will be visiting (children, adults, pets).
– Explain how long the visit will last.
– Make sure the child understands what the place (friend’s house) is like
– A change of shoes (if it is customary to take off your shoes).
– A small gift (drawing, sweets, toy – teach not to come empty-handed).
– A favourite toy (if the child is shy, it will help to adapt).
– Wet wipes and a handkerchief (just in case).
4. Prepare for possible difficulties
– If the child is shy → agree that you will stay with him/her for the first 10-15 minutes.
– If he/she doesn’t want to eat → explain that you can politely refuse (‘Thank you, I’m not hungry’).
– If they break/damage something → teach them to apologise and offer to help clean up.
5. Discuss with your host
– Clarify the menu (if the baby is allergic).
– Warn if baby is afraid of dogs/cats.
– Ask what time the baby needs to be picked up.
6. Play out the situation at home
– Role play ‘When Visiting’: how to behave at the table, what to do if bored.
– Reading books about visiting (e.g. Nicky Goes to Visit Danny).
7. Control without hyper-parenting
– Give your child some freedom, but leave a phone for communication.
– Don’t call every 5 minutes – let him settle in.
– If he asks to leave early – pick him up without reproach.
8. Discuss impressions after the visit
– What did you like/dislike?
– Who did you make friends with?
– What was challenging?
Conclusion
The first visit on your own is a step towards growing up. Being prepared will help your child feel more confident and you will feel less anxious. The main thing is to keep a balance between control and trust. Let this experience be a pleasant and memorable one!
